What Is Life Coaching Actually Like? Part 2
We left it yesterday with the coach asking Neil about his running. Read on...
Neil: Me and running? Well, we've dated about 2 years now and it's started to get serious...ha ha. Sorry, I mean I've been running for a couple of years and found it really quite addictive. Not sure if that is the right word, but I get a buzz from it, a little bit while out running, but mostly afterwards, the sense of achievement. You can leave out that first comment if you like.
BMD: No, I'll leave it in if you don't mind, it's an interesting thought. But what do you mean by buzz?
Neil: Sure, that's fine, leave it in. So the buzz is just a feeling that you have achieved something, I guess on your own, just you against nature, the road, the pathway, whatever. It's just down to you, there's no-one else to blame if it goes wrong and no-one else to take the credit when you achieve. I hadn't thought about it before but I guess that's quite rare in this world.
BMD: Thanks, I understand a bit more now. What else is there?
Neil: What else? Er....well, I know it's good for me, from a burning calories point of view. I'm big into burning calories nowadays.
BMD: Burning calories? Tell me about that.
Neil: There's not much to it, really. I was massively overweight about 3 years ago, I decided to do something about it and burning calories was a big part of that. And it worked.
BMD: Massively overweight? Really?
Neil: Well, yeah, I felt that way, anyway. But let's not go there, that's history.
BMD: Absolutely, so back to the running. You said that it's good for you, then we went off about calories. But is it important that it's good for you?
Neil: Yeah, for sure. I want to be healthy. Fit and strong. It's who I want to be.
BMD: Wow, that's an amazing statement, saying that you understand who you want to be, I don't hear that very often, usually the opposite!
Neil: Thanks. Not sure I ever said that before, it just came out.
BMD: Even better, it means you're learning about yourself as we speak.
Neil: Hmm, maybe...
BMD: Anyway, you said healthy fit and strong. What will that mean to you?
Neil: I suppose that it will mean I'll be setting a good example to my kids.
BMD: OK, tell me more
Neil: I don't want to be that Dad, couch potato, lazy, no time or energy for my kids . I think that would be a bad example to set and would set them off in life with the wrong outlook.
BMD: OK, do you have experience of that?
Neil: No, not at all, really. I was a very active as a kid, played sports all the time. Loads of different sports, all through my school years and beyond. But, I was a fat kid. And not just a bit chubby, it was a problem.....
The rest of that avenue of the conversation has been cut at Neil's request. We rejoin the conversation several minutes later...
Come back tomorrow to see the conversation get back on track...