• Neil G

The Love Affair That Must End Now


As part of my coaching research and practice, I do plenty of thinking about relationships.

There's one relationship that many people don't even recognise, yet it's so dysfunctional, causes constant misery and is a huge barrier to people achieving their full potential and living a happy and fulfilled life.

I'm talking about the relationship with food.

If you are overweight, my best guess is that you have a poor relationship with food. I should know, I've been there.

You love food. You love the tastes, the textures, the smells. You love the ritual. You love the way it makes you feel. Food is a pleasure, it's a hobby, it's a passion.

And perhaps, in another way, it's comfort and safety. It's a reliable friend when things aren't going well. It's always there as an immediate solution to calm the nerves and lift the mood.

Yes, you really are in love with food.

In itself, there is nothing wrong with any of that. For many people, this sounds like a great life, and it is their life. And within that life, they are able to maintain a healthy weight. They are the lucky ones (perhaps).

For the rest of the planet (maybe that includes you), for those carrying a bit, or a lot, of extra weight, things are very different. So for you and those people, it's time to make a change.

It's time for you to recognise the relationship you have with food for what it is…broken.

Sure, you love food, but food does not love you back.

So, it's time for you to take control of the relationship.

It's time to walk away from that love affair with food.

It's time to turn it into something different.

It's time to see food for what it really is...

And the biggest part of this is the mindset. Once you start changing your mindset, all the habits and emotional responses start to disappear into the background. The love begins to fade, maybe replaced by respect, or maybe by mistrust. And that's OK.

I know it's not easy for people to change their mindset. And so, when presented with this challenge, you might say:

"No way, I love my food.

I'm not going to change that part of my life.

I don't WANT to change that part of my life."

And that's OK, that's your choice. But you should understand the choice you are making.

You can continue your love affair with food, and remain overweight, or you can have a different relationship with food and the chance of a healthier body.

Without the change in mindset, all the dieting, exercise plans and miracle pills will NOT work. It's a waste of time, money and effort. And you know it won’t work, because you know that you are still in love with food.

This might be a bitter pill to swallow. The realisation that in order to lose weight permanently you have to change your relationship with food and fall out of love, is painful. But swallow it you must. The reality is there for you, in the mirror, every morning.

And here's the amazing thing...

Once you fall out of love with food,

you begin to fall in love with yourself.

Are you interested in finding out more?

Are you pondering how to actually change your mindset?

Are you thinking about how you go about walking away from love?

Do you wonder how you can do this, and still enjoy food, enjoy eating, enjoy your meals?

There is a way.

Visit this link to find out how to book a complimentary no-obligation consultation with me.

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